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Our journey through the word Enough has taken us from our past (Part 1) – what we did or what they said….was enough. To ENOUGH (Part 2) – or desire to make a change, stop a behavior, set boundaries. And now, we’ll chat about Ahhhh, Enough, (Part 3) our thoughts and actions on having, being, and our abundance of “Enough”. Or some may use the words, contentment, happy, filled, peace or satisfied.
Our culture encourages us to constantly crave MORE – to Have more, Be more, Attain more, Buy more…and the list goes on. What I feel when I’m focusing on culture is that I always NEED more. Whether we are trying to get “ahead” in our jobs, paying our mounting bills, buying more stuff, moving to a bigger home…all of it is feeding the feeling that we will we never have “enough”. That is a vicious cycle and it wears us out!
What if together we looked around at all we have and made a decision to have an attitude, thought or feeling of “Enough”? What would that be like? What comes to my mind is a sigh of relief and thankfulness. That’s a feeling I desire to have. How about you?
Any of the research and materials/books investigated on contentment or this feeling of “Ahhhh, enough” concludes this is something we all seek. Why do we find ourselves longing for contentment but not achieving it? If we listen to the wrong things, if we look longingly at other people’s stuff or if we are not living the passion/purpose/values we have in our hearts, it will be a tough road, but the great news, with a few changes in our focus…… it is possible! We can arrive at the destination of “ahhhh, enough”. How you may ask is that possible? By changing our attitude, clarifying what is valuable, finding our purpose and being grateful for what we have. It’s a choice we make to let go, change what we can and be grateful for all we have that will lead us on the journey to contentment. Is this a journey you would like some guidance with? My passion is to help guide people in this journey! You can contact me by going to the Speak To Me page.
You are unique so whatever steps you take are unique to your situation, your beliefs and values. What is the same for all of us is making a choice to see our lives, as unique as they are, through a grateful heart. Have you ever taken the time to write down all you are grateful for? I suggest you stop reading right now, grab a piece of paper or a notebook and list ALL you are grateful for. Ready? GO!
Was that a tough assignment for you or is the tough part to stop writing your grateful list? If you are not able to stop writing, you are one of the people that have reached….Ahhhh, enough! You understand contentment and you can probably relate to the words of the Apostle Paul, written in a letter to the church in Philippi. Philippians 4:11b – 13 I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do everything through him who gives me strength. If you are content with all you have that is a blessing and a gift! With your abundance you probably find it easy to give to others, to encourage them in their quest for contentment. Way to go!!
If on the other hand, writing what you are grateful for was difficult, what may be the issue? Our thoughts – When we focus on what we don’t have, on what is wrong or what is lacking in our lives our heart and mind will become negative, anxious, worried and as shown in this small assignment, ungrateful. Our lives may feel like we are running on a wheel in the hamster cage – always running but never really going anywhere. We find ourselves tired, unfulfilled, crabby, jealous, envious and disappointed in ourselves and others. I believe if we stop and turn our thoughts to focusing on what we DO have, what is right, and how grateful we are with our abundance our minds and hearts will follow and life will look different! We will become content, we will experience, “ahhh, enough”!
As in parts 1 & 2 in this series, I will share a little about myself and why I know “ahh, enough” is possible! It was almost 7 years ago, when I was in the group I mentioned in Part 2 where life change was happening, I was getting healthier in so many ways, losing a bunch of weight and getting fit. I was riding my bicycle in my neighborhood when I rode right into a tree. Yep, right into the trunk of a very old, very large & very hard tree. After looking around to make sure no one was watching, I realized I was bleeding from scrapes on my leg and arm, but thankful my helmet saved me from banging my head, but ouch…..my pride was hurt!! How does anyone run into a TREE?! After several days of limping, losing sensation on my left side, going to my chiropractor and being encouraged to see my doctor and a MRI – the diagnosis was MS. WHAT?!?! I was clumsy and hit a tree, I’m getting healthier than I ever have been, how could I have a chronic disease? After several additional MRI’s, neurologist appts it was confirmed, I have Multiple Sclerosis. It took a few weeks of shock, self-pity, screaming, crying and more for me to realize I had a choice to make. I could operate out of negativity OR I could find a way to think of my situation differently. Not an easy choice, but one that was necessary for me to live my life abundantly! First were the prayers…..if I have MS then help me use it to help others. Second, I changed the name of MS to More Special. After all, one of the reasons sclerosis happens is over-achieving T-Cells. I also changed the type of MS I have from Relapsing Remitting to Relaxing and Renewing More Special. A small change in thinking but it made a HUGE impact on how I moved forward as a woman who lives with MS. I try daily to focus on being content with life, with what I am able to do for others, on what I have been blessed with and how I can share that with others. I know you can too! I would enjoy the opportunity to work with you as you achieve, “Ahhhh, enough” in your life. You can connect with me by going to the Speak To Me page.
If you have reflected on what tapes or movies play inside your mind for you and you have turned those around to realizing what you did, what they did was what they knew, accept it for what it is…..thank them for what you learned and move on?! If you shouted ENOUGH and took steps to set up new boundaries, remove yourself from a situation or relationship, learned a new behavior and/or moved forward to set goals to become a person with a purpose and now you are ready to experience more “ahhh, enough”. GOOD FOR YOU!!
You may need some guidance with these steps of realizing “enough”, you may desire to talk with a counselor, trusted friend, family member or Life Coach. You can reach me by going to the Speak To Me page. Together we can work towards your “Enough!”
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Following are some additional quotes on “Ahhh, enough” or contentment.
Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough. – Oprah Winfrey
It is right to be contented with what we have, never with what we are. – James Mackintosh
If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. – Wayne Dyer
Watch your manner of speech if you wish to develop a peaceful state of mind. Start each day by affirming peaceful, contented and happy attitudes and your days will tend to be pleasant and successful. – Norman Vincent Peale
The very fact that we long for the change we do is a sign that we are meant to have it. Our very dissatisfaction with our weaknesses and struggles points to the reality that continuing to live in them is not our destiny. – Stasi Eldredge
“Enough”, that is the word we are going to look at in this series. This will be a 3 part series on “Enough”.
First, the past, what I did, what others did/didn’t do is “enough”. We can’t change the past but we can learn from it, we can forgive others and ourselves and even be thankful for the past.
Second, “ENOUGH”, where are you desiring to take action to make a change, to set a boundary, to stop blaming and/or making excuses?
Third, “Enough” – we have enough, we are enough, looking forward to sharing out of my enough abundance.
Part 1 – “Enough” – The past.
Do you ever find yourself playing old tapes or movies over and over in your head? Are they helping you become who you desire to be? Are you holding on to things from your past that are tripping you up today? Have you forgiven others and yourself for the past? What can we learn from our past to help us in our present and future? Have you acknowledged even said Thank You, to those in your past?
Most of us have tapes or movies from our past that play in our heads from time to time. These tapes may be keeping us in a past where we feel guilt, hurt, anger, shame or fear. How is that shaping our present? Will we allow those movies to shape our future? What would happen if we hit the pause button on the movie, re-examined our past and learned to look at our past in a way that says “enough”?
What we knew then and how we reacted to our situation at that time was “enough”. We didn’t know then what we know now. The people in our lives that may have hurt us acted out of what they knew at the time. What we know to be true now can be used to look back, to help us put the tapes into a new perspective, to help us forgive ourselves and others. Rewinding can help us learn from our experiences and to grow from those situations. Will Rogers, actor, from the early 1930’s said, “The worst thing that happens to you may be the best thing for you if you don’t let it get the best of you.” Here is another way to say it, It takes a lot of strength and courage to put the past behind you and stand up and say: ” I will not let it define me.” To push forward and create the life that you truly deserve and not focus on bad things that life handed you in the past. — Unknown- Positive Outlook Blog
Are you ready to rewind, and re-examine? Do you desire to learn, forgive, release, and thank others and yourself? It has worked for me and for others I’ve had the privilege to coach. If this is something you have felt drawn to change, let’s see what we can do together! Please go to the Speak To Me page and complete the simple form.
If it helps you, here is an example from my past. One of the tapes I have rewound was from my Gramma. I was able to spend a lot of time with my grandparents as I was growing up, a lot of the great things I know to be true came from conversations with my grandparents, but some of what I THOUGHT was true also came from my grandparents. One of my Gramma’s gifts was hospitality. She cooked, bake, decorated and welcomed guests and family into their home. Gramma, however, had a strange custom to never sit with us at the meal, but would serve us. She may have sat down for a minute or two but there was always a dish to fill or new item to bring to the table. If we did not empty a dish, say the meatballs, she would say, ‘there are meatballs left, don’t you love me?’ which would then have me grab and eat the last of the meatballs or whatever item was left. Not surprisingly, hearing these comments and others like it, I developed into a chubby obedient girl. Several years into this routine, as I continued to grow chubbier, Gramma would say, “When you get down to a size __, then I’ll buy you some new clothes.” Hmmm, how do you please, win, or really process those statements together? Eat to show love, but when you are chubby, you are not worthy, I won’t buy you clothes until you are thinner…..Hmmmm.
We have different tapes or movies, but….what can we learn from them to move to “enough”? I realized that Gramma wanted her love tank filled by people accepting and eating up her hospitality – it’s what she knew, her “enough”. The sideways comments to get me to be healthy was not only confusing but set me up for some long years of image issues and weight problems!! I acted out of what I desired at the time – wanted to feel love from Gramma and others, be accepted, and feel worthy. I was able to rewind the tape, realize the shame I took on, and how that affected my behaviors through the years. With processing, learning and some guidance from a counselor/coach, I was able to thank my Gramma for teaching me awesome hospitality gifts. I learned that one of the ways I receive love is serving others. I also learned to NOT be filled by what people DO with my gifts – just by the practice of DOING hospitality, serving others, making them feel welcome, fills my love tank! That is “enough”! The biggest learning, however, I AM worthy, loveable and able to share out of my love. I am “enough”.
What tapes or movies play for you and how can we turn those around to realizing what you did, what they did was what they knew, accept it for what it is…..thank them for what you learned and move on?! If you need some guidance in this area, I would love the opportunity to work with you. Face to face is preferred for coaching and that is possible in person and/or on SKYPE! Please go to the Speak To Me page, compete the form and let’s chat about how we can work together!
I collected a few quotes that gave me a fresh perspective on “enough”, learning from the past, forgiving and moving forward to a full life of “enough”. Collecting quotes is one of my hobbies! Enjoy and be encouraged!
For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind. – Ralph Waldo Emerson
You have to accept whatever comes and the only important thing is that you meet it with courage and with the best that you have to give. – Eleanor Roosevelt
When we do the best that we can, we never know what miracle is wrought in our life, or in the life of another. – Helen Keller
When you forgive, you in no way change the past – but you sure do change the future. – Bernard Meltzer
People can be more forgiving than you can imagine. But you have to forgive yourself. Let go of what’s bitter and move on. – Bill Cosby
You can’t forgive without loving. And I don’t mean sentimentality. I don’t mean mush. I mean having enough courage to stand up and say, ‘I forgive. I’m finished with it.’ – Maya Angelou
When I am able to resist the temptation to judge others, I can see them as teachers of forgiveness in my life, reminding me that I can only have peace of mind when I forgive rather than judge. – Gerald Jampolsky
I wouldn’t change anything. I’ve made mistakes, but thanks to those mistakes, I’ve learned. – Enrique Iglesias
Thank you for reading, hope to hear from you either in comments or through the Speak To Me page! Parts 2 & 3 are to come.