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Have you noticed there have been a lot of lists for starting something in the new year? Lists that tell you…..what to do, when to do it, why you do it……10 steps to a better _____, the first 3 things to do to have a better____, what your spouse needs from you, what you need from your job…..and many more. Are your inboxes filled, newsfeeds rolling with ideas, tweets, retweets, posts, reposts and on and on. Have you found yourself asking – But what to work on first? What area to focus on? What is going to be the best for you? Who is going to do it with me? Should I do it all alone? And then finding yourself yelling, “STOP, I can’t make up my mind, so I’m not going to do any of it!” You are not alone.
What I love about this time of year is the strong intention we all have to make an improvement. Whether that improvement is in our physical, spiritual, mental, relationships or emotional areas of life, we want to have “it” be better or at least different than it is now. I’ve heard from some that the options are too many, the work is too hard or the project is JUST TOO BIG. So, they just won’t do any of it! Why even try? They tell me, I will be doing the same thing over and over again without getting any different results. Well, that may be true if we continue to start but not finish, if we don’t have anyone to help us along the way, or if we have started to work on something that really doesn’t fit with our values, life or situation.
If this sounds familiar maybe you need a little guidance. I would welcome the chance to explore what you want to change, improve or stop doing. Over this past year I have been privileged to coach people in many different areas of life. We’ve worked through job changes, job loss and career changes. I’ve been able to coach couples to learn new communication skills and practices to deepen their relationship. Several are working through past belief’s that have held them hostage to ways of behavior that are not honoring who they are or who they desire to be. Others have felt a nudge to do something in their life, but had difficulty clarifying that “something”, together we worked through finding their gifts, values and what they have been called to do. It’s been an exciting year of growth, discovery, challenges and changes! Are you ready? I would be honored to coach you through changes, improvements, challenges and new discoveries, let’s do this together. Let’s make 2015 different! Please go to the Speak To Me page and we’ll start together. We can work together in person, by phone, through SKYPE, individually, as a couple or even as a group. The first step is to reach out!
Blessings to you on this new year!
Pulling weeds sucks. The bending and digging is really hard on my back. Rain will mess up a round of golf or that special outdoor party. Birds make such a mess throwing seed out of the bird feeder.
Bugs – hate ‘em.
Chris has taught me to appreciate nature. When you talk to her or read her blog, you realize that there is good and beauty in nature; you just have to look for it.
Rain is important and does so much good. Ask any farmer or someone trying to grow a lawn.
There is a calmness when I hear the birds singing in the morning. Seed can be messy, but it gets taken care of by the squirrels. When you are visited by a hummingbird or something unique like an oriole, that can be spectacular to see.
Yes, pulling weeds sucks but it is needed to clear out the junk so that the good things keep growing. A weed-free garden looks so much better and is much healthier. Within my own life I have learned from Chris that focusing on the “weeds” in a situation is not good and will drive you crazy. Getting rid of the “weeds” helps me focus on the important things and provides a healthy balance in my life.
I have seen how Chris interacts with people and talks to them. Chris has the personality and qualities that make her a great life coach. When new people meet Chris, they feel very welcome. I would recommend talking to her if there is something out of balance with your life.
Oh – and as for the bugs – they may have some benefit – but I still hate ‘em.
Have you felt that way? Do you wonder why you are so busy but not fulfilled? I know that feeling! In my past I was doing so much, busy all the time, but I was not making a difference. One of my values is, trying to make a difference, I was not living in my purpose.
What would you say are your values? Community involvement, relationships, career advancement, money, adventure, helping others…? Everyone values something! Our values are how we prioritize our time, energy, resources… our values help define our purpose.
If you were to describe yourself and your values, would the things you spend your time and energy on, line up with your description? Are your values part of your everyday life? Do you filter your decisions throughout the day or set goals for next week, month, year, and beyond through your values? Do your values help you set your priorities? Are your values driving your life’s purpose?
When your values are aligned with your thoughts, how you are spending your time, your energy, and resources, your life is good, in balance – on purpose! When your time, energy, resources and thoughts are not aligning with your values, there is something just not right! Life is not running on all cylinders – priorities are all messed up – we don’t feel like we are fulfilled.
Not sure if you are living your values? Here is a simple exercise; take a look at your calendar – do the appointments you have set line up with what you value? Or are the hours you have in a day consumed by other things? What is taking your time and energy? Now open your online bank statement or open your checkbook register – do you spend your resources based on your values?
When I first did this exercise years ago, it was enlightening to see that, no, I was NOT spending my time, energy or resources on things that were important to me. No wonder I was feeling out of sorts! I did some work to clarify my values, get more in line with them. After that work, I was able to understand and clarify my life’s purpose – Helping others reach their highest potential through equipping, developing, leading and encouraging! Wow, what a difference clarification made in my life! Life is good!
If you would like to learn more about clarifying your values, setting and achieving goals or finding your life’s purpose, why not contact me and give Life Coaching a try? Simply go to my Speak To Me page and fill out the form. Let’s set up your free 15 minute session to discuss how we can move forward together.