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What?  It’s a new year?  Let’s work together to do something different!

Have you noticed there have been a lot of lists for starting something in the new year?  Lists that tell you…..what to do, when to do it, why you do it……10  steps to a better _____, the first 3 things to do to have a better____, what your spouse needs from you, what you need from your job…..and many more.  Are your inboxes filled, newsfeeds rolling with ideas, tweets, retweets, posts, reposts and on and on.  Have you found yourself asking – But what to work on first?  What area to focus on?  What is going to be the best for you?  Who is going to do it with me?  Should I do it all alone? And then finding yourself yelling, “STOP, I can’t make up my mind, so I’m not going to do any of it!” You are not alone.

What I love about this time of year is the strong intention we all have to make an improvement.  Whether that improvement is in our physical, spiritual, mental, relationships or emotional areas of life, we want to have “it” be better or at least different than it is now.  I’ve heard from some that the options are too many, the work is too hard or the project is JUST TOO BIG.  So, they just won’t do any of it!  Why even try? They tell me, I will be doing the same thing over and over again without getting any different results.  Well, that may be true if we continue to start but not finish, if we don’t have anyone to help us along the way, or if we have started to work on something that really doesn’t fit with our values, life or situation.

If this sounds familiar maybe you need a little guidance.  I would welcome the chance to explore what you want to change, improve or stop doing.  Over this past year I have been privileged to coach people in many different areas of life.  We’ve worked through job changes, job loss and career changes.  I’ve been able to coach couples to learn new communication skills and practices to deepen their relationship.  Several are working through past belief’s that have held them hostage to ways of behavior that are not honoring who they are or who they desire to be.  Others have felt a nudge to do something in their life, but had difficulty clarifying that “something”, together we worked through finding their gifts, values and what they have been called to do.  It’s been an exciting year of growth, discovery, challenges and changes!  Are you ready?  I would be honored to coach you through changes, improvements, challenges and new discoveries, let’s do this together. Let’s make 2015 different!   Please go to the Speak To Me page and we’ll start together.  We can work together in person, by phone, through SKYPE, individually, as a couple or even as a group.  The first step is to reach out!

Blessings to you on this new year!

When the Outside looks Good…but…What is in the Inside?

We recently took a walk in our favorite local park.  We were saddened to see that the BIG oak tree had fallen and lay cut in pieces to be taken away.  This tree, by our semi-scientific calculations, was over 250 years old.  What we loved about this tree is it stood so majestically at the bottom a hill flanked by benches for storytelling time, waving its beautiful branches in the wind.  But, as we investigated a bit, the core of the tree was rotted away.  Hmmm, without the tree being down and cut, we would not have seen the rotted inside.  There were probably signs previous to it falling, like branches falling off more frequently, maybe some insects running up and down its bark, or a large number of acorns being produced in the last year….which we learned from a tree “guy” is a sign that the tree is in distress.  Whatever the little signs might have been we missed them and were surprised to find this majestic oak tree down.

What does this have to do with anything but an old oak tree falling?  I think it has a lot of similarities to how we are at times.  We put on a good front when inside we are crying out for something.  Others may look great on the outside but suffer from disease.  Or we look great, strong and powerful on the outside but inside we are feeling empty, lonely or depressed.  What can be done to prevent our insides from “rotting” away and causing us to fall from the discord inside of us?  If we are not feeling well or feeling like something just isn’t right, we can go to a doctor.  They have been gifted with wisdom and have access to many tools to look inside to see what might be wrong.  When we get a diagnosis, we can then start the treatment to get better, from the inside out!  We have friends who recently lost someone special in their life, he ignored signs of something being wrong and finally when the symptoms became debilitating he went to a doctor.  “The cancer is too advanced, there is nothing we can do.  I’m sorry,” was the diagnosis.  How terribly sad for all involved.

I know from my own experience that something was wrong with my body several years ago.  That strange numbness and tingling was on my left side and now going to the right side.  MRI’s were ordered and when we saw the lesions on my spine and in my brain we knew we were dealing with MS.  Treatment with medication, eating well and exercising, I feel healthier than I ever have before.  We found the issue and we have made plans to address it.  In the next article, we will deal with times when the inside is good, but the outside doesn’t perform or look as good…..another topic completely…stay tuned.

What about those of us who are crying on the inside.  Eventually your outside will show what is on the inside.  No it won’t Chris, I’ve hidden it for years, you might be thinking.  I have to disagree with you.  When we fake health, whether that be physical, emotional or spiritual it WILL come out!  Maybe we try to cover it up with alcohol, keeping our relationships at surface level, or we have practices of coping we do in private.  Whatever we are doing to hide it, cover it up or push it to the back of our mind, it is making us sick – rotting on the inside.  What can be done?  Plenty!  If you are ready to change, heal and live a fuller life!  You can visit a counselor who can work with you to discover the root of your inside trouble and help you heal.  You can seek out a recovery group that can help you address the issues you are covering up with other things.  You can reach out to someone that you trust who can walk with you on this journey of healing from the inside out.  The important step is to start!

Okay, you might be saying, Chris I am healthy, I have a good life, but I do sometimes feel like there is more to life, I’m just not sure what or if it’s just silly for me to think that way.  I’m not really rotting on the inside, but I do feel like there is something missing.  There are some things you too can do!  If you are feeling unfulfilled in your job, relationships, marriage, or spiritual life, there are things you can do to help you find the missing piece or pieces.  Are you in a job that fits with your values or do you struggle every day as you prepare for going to work with questions or worse – dread?  Do the people in your life share your beliefs and values?  Are they helping you grow?  Have you helped them grow?  Are you deepening your understanding of what you believe spiritually? Are you living out what you are learning?  Would others be able to acknowledge what you believe by the way you behave?  There are things you can do to become healthier on the inside, how you can find those missing pieces and how you can live a more purposeful fulfilled life.  Find someone you trust and open up to them about your concerns of feeling empty.  Search for guidance from a coworker, leader in your church, family member or friend you trust.  You can also receive guidance from a counselor or Life Coach.  I would be honored to talk with you about your desired next step or help you discover your next step, simply go to the Speak To Me page and we can connect.  Together we can discover, grow and develop your purpose.  You will bless yourself and those around you!  Whatever you choose to do, I ask you to DO SOMETHING.  Your inside and your outside can match, your life can be driven by your purpose and values…..a fulfilled life!

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Why? If it doesn’t feel right – Change! My epiphany

Why did I leave a job I loved?  Why did I move to Milwaukee?  Why did I open my heart to Brian?  Why did I leave all that I have known for over 50 years?  Why did I move away from my grown daughter and extended family?  Why did I become a life coach?  Why indeed!

I believe I am in the right spot for my life at this very moment.  I am a Life Coach who longs to guide people to clarify their values, discover their unique gifts and lead a more purposeful life.  I am a “retired” pastor who continues to volunteer and develop leaders.  I am a Milwaukee resident following my heart to marry the best husband!  I am a trailblazer and willing to try new things.  I appreciate all I have learned from others in my past and my past experiences.  I am a Gramma who treasures time with the kids and the “little’s” YAHOO for Skype!  I love my MN family and friends.

Why the confession?  It was revealed to me on Wednesday, November 12th how blessed I am, how I live a rich life, how God created me with unique gifts that help others and how I am not doing the best I can.  Not a “shame on you” or a “you are wasting time” kind of truth.  A question really of “what are you putting in the way that is a stumbling block to sharing what you were created to do?”  After some thought and asking for guidance, my passion is not to become a Life Coach to be rich and famous, I became a Life Coach to assist others in clarifying their values, finding their unique passions and setting goals to lead a purposeful life!  What is in the way of that happening?  I believe it has to do with how I look at my coaching practice.  Is it a career?  Yes.  Is Life Coaching a type of ministry to help guide others to be the very best they can be?  Yes.  Is my Life Coaching practice assessable to those who desire to clarify their values, discover their uniqueness and enjoy a more purposeful life?  Maybe, but not assessable to those with real life financial constraints and/or concerns.  The awesome folks I know in the MS community who live in a reality of crazy high medical expenses, a Life Coach is an extra that is not in the budget, no matter how much they are desired.  Single parents, which I was for over 20 years, may be hard pressed to afford such a perceived extra luxury, no matter how much a Life Coach would help to enrich their life and their children’s lives.  A family who is struggling to purchase the groceries, pay the mortgage or general living expenses, but who know a Life Coach would help their family dynamics with communication and goal setting.  These are the people I long to coach!  One of the stumbling blocks I believe is the higher financial cost.  If I lower that barrier, I believe people who are desiring to grow, change, enrich and explore their lives to lead a more purposeful life will have a better opportunity to seek out my coaching.

Today I am announcing a dramatic change in my fee structure. Discovering gifts and passions, accountability, setting and tracking goals toward a more purposeful life will take time.  There are several package options to work with me as your Life Coach.

Package #1 – Five hour long sessions that can be in person, Skype or phone, where we will clarify values, set goals, identify your passions and help you be accountable in your growth towards a more purposeful life.  These 5 sessions will be scheduled in a 10 week period.  Also included are 3 (up to 15 minute) email or phone support during the coaching period $150

Package #2 – Five 45 minute walks with 15 minute wrap up sessions.  Walk in nature to reconnect with creation, or walk in a public location to clear your mind and focus on what steps you want to take to reach your goals.  These sessions will be in person, will have level terrain with paths, roads or indoors.  These 5 sessions will be scheduled in a 10 week period.  Also included are 3 (up to 15 minute) email or phone support during the coaching period $150

Package #3 – Six  1 hour sessions for Couples – one or two sessions with individual and four or five with couple together to work on values, communication, relationship and goals for couple to pursue their family life purpose.  Can be in person, Skype or phone.  These 6 sessions will be scheduled in a 3 month period.  Also included are 4 (up to 15 minute) email or phone support during the 3 month coaching period $180

Package for returning clients – Three 1 hour sessions – can be in person, Skype or by phone.  Sessions will be to reconnect with the goals you had set and steps you took in our first set of sessions then focus on new goals from the new habits you formed, accountability and celebrating your movement forward in pursuing your life’s purpose.  These 3 sessions will be scheduled in a 2 month period.  Also included are 2 (up to 15 minute) email or phone support during the coaching period $80

1 hour sessions – $40 hr. schedule at least one week in advance.

All coaching packages come with a money back guarantee.  A refund, if requested, will be given after your first session.  A pro-rated refund will be given for any unused sessions at the $40 hr. rate any time after your second session.  You may discontinue your coaching package at any time during the process.

Thank you for reading this post.  I hope this shows how all of us get chances to change, grow and start new in areas of our lives.  If you are interested in working with me as your Life Coach, please go to the Speak To Me page and complete the simple form.

Mistakes: opportunity or problem

Mistakes, I’ve made several, we have all made mistakes at one time or another.   Mistakes are so “normal” that songs are written about them.  Here are a few I’m aware of:

Queen – We are the Champions –“And bad mistakes I’ve made a few I’ve had my share of sand kicked in my face”

Bob Marley – Mistakes – “I made a mistake, yes, I did, yes, I did”

Smokey Robinson – Oh Baby, Baby – “Mistakes, I know I’ve made a few.  But I’m only human.  You’ve made mistakes too”

If we all make mistakes, do we all react to the outcome the same way?  Do we all change whatever behavior or choices we’ve made to NOT make the same mistake again?   In my life I’ll admit mistakes have been repeated.  Meaning I didn’t learn the first time around, OR, I didn’t stop to find out how my behavior influenced the situations where mistakes occurred.  Do you ever find yourself in a different situation but with the same mistakes being made?  You are not alone and you can change!

Mistakes are opportunities to learn and grow.  Mistakes and the situations they bring are new chances for us to take a different approach!  In this article we’ll focus on dating relationships.  A man or woman find what they believe to be their “perfect” dating partner.  The excitement and anticipation build for this new potential relationship.  However, like their previous dating relationships in a few weeks or months….BAM….”it” happens again!  The “it”, can be different for everyone, but why “it” keeps happening is the same.  If you have not dealt with the “it” from your last relationship, stopped to discover your part in the situation and learned a new way to act/think – you WILL repeat “it”!

Have you thought or have you heard others say, “Why does this always happen to me?” or “Why do all the men/women I date end up doing the same thing as my last date?”  Stop!  It’s time to investigate what is happening, deal with your findings, change your thoughts/behavior patterns and head in a new direction!  How do we do that?! Here are several options.  You could ask a close friend to be honest with you and tell you what they see as a pattern.  You can ask a family member for advice. You can seek out a Life Coach – someone that will help you sort out what is happening, think of other ways to think/act, set a plan in place, hold you accountable and guide you to reach your highest potential.  I would enjoy the opportunity to talk with you to see if we would be a good fit for a Life Coach relationship.  Simply go to the Speak To Me page, fill out the brief form and we’ll be in contact!  One of my favorite quotes of Albert Einstein is “Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”  Let’s see what I can do to help you have different results!

We have focused here on the dating relationship but this applies to all areas of your life, marriage, job, family, church, work and more.  If you find yourself living with consequences of past or present mistakes, or if you are thinking it will never change, let’s work together.  We will sort through the situation, learn different responses, new thought processes and set a plan in place to change your focus from mistakes are problems to opportunities for growth!!  Go to the Speak To Me page, complete the form and we can talk about what steps to take next!  Here’s to changing mistakes into growth opportunities!

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